For the past two weeks I've just been feeling overwhelmed and discontent, not really discontent just burdened I guess. I don't know what it's been, the change in weather, unfinished projects, stress of the holidays. I mean, don't get me wrong, I absolutely love this time of year but then I also don't like what Christmas has become. Or hasn't become with making this time of year politically correct and calling it "Happy Holidays", "Holiday Season". Yes, there are many more religions besides Christianity but that is the history of Christmas and I find it amusing that "they" want you to refer to it as the "Holiday Season" but celebrate Christmas and get/give gifts. Ironic. Even though it is really ALL about Christ's birth and not gifts. Yes, we do celebrate with gifts but you know what I mean.
But I want more for my family than just opening gifts and being done. And yes, I know it's what you make of it and your family traditions but it also saddens me for those families, moms and dads or grandmas and grandpas that may not have a lot of money but feel "pressured" to have to buy something.
Pastor had a great message this morning about remembering what this time of year is really, absolutely about...not gifts, not caroling, not family, yes not family, but rather....Christ's birth. No, we don't know the exact date of his actual birth but it is the day that has been set aside to celebrate his birth and for a birthday, don't you celebrate that person's birth? Not Christ's. Instead it has turned into a big birthday for everyone else, gifts for everyone but HIM.
I have headed up our Angel Program at work for the past three years working with local charities to help get their "angels" adopted for the Christmas season. We put a tree up in all our branches and announce to our members to adopt an angel. Our department always goes in together to adopt 2-3 angels. And when I adopt an angel I always read the tag and look for true "needs" like pajamas, shirts, books etc., not someone asking for a PlayStation game. I absolutely love going to the store shopping for this little angel and imagine the look on their face on Christmas morning.
Such as a story I was told the other day from one of the charities. It is a charity that works with minorities and mom's that have been abused, they help them get back on their feet. She was telling me about one of the mom's who has asked for help. The time had come and past for the mom to get her gifts that were waiting for her but the agency was unable to get in contact with her. So on Christmas Eve, one of the workers remembered where she worked and drove all the gifts to her job hoping she'd be there. Since it was Dunkin' Donuts she knew they'd be open late at 10pm. When she arrived and asked for the mom, she told her who she was and that she had a car full of gifts for her children. The mom just started crying and through her tears she told this dear worker that all day she had been running in her head over and over what she was going to tell the children when they woke up on Christmas day with no presents. I just about started crying right their in my cube. I can't imagine that having never been there. The poor mom was desperate to give her children a Christmas, as most children don't understand it's their parents that give the gifts and not Santa. Heartbreaking to say the least but with a happy ending.
After all this though I digress. I've been stressed, I think it's a mommy/wife thing. I try to do so much and be so much and it's just not humanly possible. I would love to be that perfect mom with perfect kids and a perfect home but you know what? I am not. We should all have goals and strive for a clean and tidy house, obedient, respectful children but the reality is no one is perfect. I think I just try way too hard sometimes and then just deflate.
I beat myself up because I am not at the fitness level I want, so when I don't work out, I feel bad. Or if I failed to read my Bible and devotions or pray...a daily struggle. Or if I wash the dishes instead of playing trains with Chase. I need to stop looking at my faults and weaknesses and start to look at what is good. Chase is a good boy and obeys, most days anyways, well he is two so...
My house isn't filthy just not tidy. It's not unfinished projects (the stairs or bathroom cabinet) but rather upgrades to the house that take time and this would be time away from my boys, the whole reason why I stay home. It all comes down to priorities and keeping to them. I have never been a schedule person, never, but I am coming to realize that children thrive on schedules, throughout the entire day not just at bedtime. I am sick of feeling frazzled and stressed. And of course it doesn't help having a very strong-willed little two year that showcases his "terrific" two's lately. It stresses me out which makes me for a not-so-lovely mother or wife. This too shall pass with prayers and training.
And as I sit here, I have the TV on a Christmas special, "The Christmas Clause" a made for TV movie. I just put it on because it was a Christmas movie and I take every advantage to watch a Christmas movie. But you know what the entire movie was about? A mother who is burned out. It starts out with her at the mall with her three kids, trying to do this and that while the kids are whining and acting up. She wishes for a another woman's life, who looks like she has it all...money, happiness etc.
Well, as movies go, she got that wish and woke up in that woman's life. A successful single woman who has a beautiful house etc. But she wasn't liked very much as she was all about herself and things. She needed to find her true self and what she was really important to her....her family. And in order to get that life back she needed to find that out. And in the end as she is talking to "Santa" about getting her family back she quoted this line...."I'm missing the stuff that matters along the way. How can I get so busy that I am actually missing my own life? I thought I wasn't doing enough, my problem has always been trying to do too much." "Balance is important." Santa says. Once she realized this, she woke up from her over-exhaustion induced coma that she was in for two days.
It's so simple but so true, as I sit here exhausted and overwhelmed.
What's important to me...
Impromptu family Christmas photo
December 19, 2010
I want to cherish this time as it shall pass way too soon. I love this time of year and plan on getting over this "slump" and making wonderful memories with my family and finding the TRUE meaning of Christmas.